Dear Thalia,

I'm a femme lesbian in a committed relationship with a butch. I love my partner and crave her touch and to be near her. I have gone through (early) menopause due to a complete hysterectomy. My desire and sex drive is low at best and sex is often painful (penetration of any kind, despite copious amounts of lube) -- ideas on how to keep us both intimate, connected and sexual?

Sincerely,

GrrlNextDoor

Dear Thalia,

I was in an accident a year and a half ago that left me paralyzed from the hips down. How does one enter back into the dating world when I am still learning how my body is now?

Are there other women that will date someone in a wheelchair and see them for the person that they are and not the chair that they have to be in?

Sincerely,

Love and Life

Dear Thalia,

I recently moved to the Bay area from a small town on the east coast to teach dance.

I'm 32 and have dated older butch women exclusively since college, when I came out and I'm a total femme. I'm starting to experiment with the BDSM scene, leather etc.

What advice would you have for me to stay safe as I explore the BDSM scene in my new town?

Sincerely,

All Tied Up