How Do I Keep Myself And My Partner Intimate And Connected After Menopause?

Dear Thalia,

I'm a femme lesbian in a committed relationship with a butch. I love my partner and crave her touch and to be near her. I have gone through (early) menopause due to a complete hysterectomy. My desire and sex drive is low at best and sex is often painful (penetration of any kind, despite copious amounts of lube) -- ideas on how to keep us both intimate, connected and sexual?

Sincerely,

GrrlNextDoor