I read a lot of books and in those books they always find true love and have perfect sex. But what if the love is true and the sex is boring?

My partner isn't as interested in sex as I am. She makes me feel like a nymphomaniac and I swear I'm not.

What do I do?

Sincerely,

Too Much

Dear Thalia,

I'm expecting a child in a few months, and I have lost all desire for sex.

My wife has had two children and i know that when she was pregnant, she was insatiable and constantly in the mood. I feel bad for rejecting her advances, but i just don't want sex! I've talked to her about it and she always says "It's fine." but i think she is just trying to make me feel better.

How do I make her realize that i still want her without becoming a tease?

Sincerely,

Expecting

Dear Thalia,

 
I'm nearly thirty-two years old and I've never had an orgasm. I have had sex with one man (well lad) in the past, before I came out, and basically did it because I was trying to be straight. Yeah that didn't work. It was basically uncomfortable and painful each of the few times it happened. 
Since coming out about eight years ago I haven't even attempted to date. This is for two reasons. The first is I'm disabled and it's hard to get out. The second, and probably the biggest reason, is because I am worried about sex. 

If I can't even give myself an orgasm how could I please someone else?

I read a lot, and most of the books have sex scenes in them. And while I enjoy these scenes, I just don't really feel aroused or the need to touch myself. I sometimes get wet but I don't feel anything else. 

I have touched myself and used a few different vibrators, but I've done that more because I want to have an orgasm and know what it's like. Not because I feel the need to do it. I find it pleasurable especially with a vibrator but I still don't orgasm. I feel like I'm getting close but then it just goes away and I get frustrated with myself. I guess I have a few issues going on here.

What should I do? 

Sincerely,

Too Tense and Confused

Dear Thalia,

I'm a femme lesbian in a committed relationship with a butch. I love my partner and crave her touch and to be near her. I have gone through (early) menopause due to a complete hysterectomy. My desire and sex drive is low at best and sex is often painful (penetration of any kind, despite copious amounts of lube) -- ideas on how to keep us both intimate, connected and sexual?

Sincerely,

GrrlNextDoor

Dear Thalia,

I was in an accident a year and a half ago that left me paralyzed from the hips down. How does one enter back into the dating world when I am still learning how my body is now?

Are there other women that will date someone in a wheelchair and see them for the person that they are and not the chair that they have to be in?

Sincerely,

Love and Life

Dear Thalia,

I recently moved to the Bay area from a small town on the east coast to teach dance.

I'm 32 and have dated older butch women exclusively since college, when I came out and I'm a total femme. I'm starting to experiment with the BDSM scene, leather etc.

What advice would you have for me to stay safe as I explore the BDSM scene in my new town?

Sincerely,

All Tied Up