I read a lot of books and in those books they always find true love and have perfect sex. But what if the love is true and the sex is boring?

My partner isn't as interested in sex as I am. She makes me feel like a nymphomaniac and I swear I'm not.

What do I do?

Sincerely,

Too Much

Dear Thalia,

 
I'm nearly thirty-two years old and I've never had an orgasm. I have had sex with one man (well lad) in the past, before I came out, and basically did it because I was trying to be straight. Yeah that didn't work. It was basically uncomfortable and painful each of the few times it happened. 
Since coming out about eight years ago I haven't even attempted to date. This is for two reasons. The first is I'm disabled and it's hard to get out. The second, and probably the biggest reason, is because I am worried about sex. 

If I can't even give myself an orgasm how could I please someone else?

I read a lot, and most of the books have sex scenes in them. And while I enjoy these scenes, I just don't really feel aroused or the need to touch myself. I sometimes get wet but I don't feel anything else. 

I have touched myself and used a few different vibrators, but I've done that more because I want to have an orgasm and know what it's like. Not because I feel the need to do it. I find it pleasurable especially with a vibrator but I still don't orgasm. I feel like I'm getting close but then it just goes away and I get frustrated with myself. I guess I have a few issues going on here.

What should I do? 

Sincerely,

Too Tense and Confused

Dear Thalia,

My girlfriend and I have been talking about spicing up our lovemaking routine with a toy. Neither one of us has any experience with any toys so we're totally overwhelmed.  Where do we start?

Sincerely,

Treasure Chest